One of the reasons for starting this running habit, as listed in the first GSBH2013 post, was to change my commitment karma. Without going into the gory details, lately there has been much analyzing of past relationships — which at some point always leans towards finger being pointed away from myself, aaaaaand then right back towards myself again. At some point it seemed like this process of finger-pointing was a reason to feel like a bad person, a selfish person – but now am beginning to consider that perhaps this is human nature. It’s hard to look at yourself and own your actions!
It seems trite to say that ‘running is a metaphor for life’, but it works for this runner. The first 10K race is coming up (yipes…) and what I am certain of is that if I get my butt out the door for a run every other day the 10K will be doable. Will it still be a physical challenge? Yes. But the tools to be able to push through and do my personal best will be there at the ready. Doing the exact same run every time will result in more of a physical and mental challenge on race day. Striving for a longer distance every week will, with any luck, better prepare me mentally — and my 45yr old body will have a better chance at stepping up to the challenge (keeping my fingers crossed that my body does not implode on race day….LOL).
In other words, the amount of commitment and energy put into training will be reflected likewise in the end result – both mentally and physically. Apply that to relationships – the amount of commitment and energy put into relationships (of all kinds) will be reflected likewise in the other persons commitment and willingness to step up.
It must also be said that as we age we realize that our bodies are not always able to step up to our level of commitment. Teaching dance and learning about sport has taught me that sometimes our physical ability doesn’t always match our level of commitment. When that happens we need to take a step back and evaluate, is there another way to accomplish this goal with this body? Or do I need to let it go and move new direction?
Sometimes you can put energy and commitment into a relationship – and no matter what you do it isn’t reflected back likewise. Those are the moments when you need to take a step back and reevaluate – not just your actions and/or the other persons actions, but consider if it is realistic to pursue this particular relationship. Letting go is the hardest part – but sometimes its necessary for one’s own well-being and survival in this crazy world.
Actions truly do speak louder than words – and letting go is an action that speaks volumes about one’s commitment to self-worth.
Quotes from John Stanton’s Facebook page (founder of The Running Room):
“Commitment… being loyal to your goal and accountable to yourself.”
“To define who you are and what you mean to yourself …go for a run.”
Am running to a huge playlist that surprises me at every step and interval. LOVE when this song kicks in.